Making friends in Marbella

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We have just moved to Spain from France and I am really unsure if we have made the right decision. We have really not found any friends or met anyone with whom we have a lot in common and are struggling also to know where to base ourselves. We had many friends in France and I'm sure we can find similar here in Marbella, but so far, everyone we have met is so different from us and all the areas I have looked at are so over-developed.


We are a family with 3 girls (6, 8 and 10) who are all very creative and not really into electronic toys or mobile phones. We are mainly vegetarian and my business is in organic raw food and alternative health products, so I guess pretty way out from most.

I run my own business from home (I help producers of organic and raw food, plus alternative health solutions to grow their business and reach my wholesaler contacts throughout Europe). My husband works in London and is based at home every other week.

We are both university educated and like to chat about cerebal things occasionally although are more than happy to have a light hearted laugh most of the time.... I just need someone to talk to about more than just the weather/holidays/children without lots of swearing and smoking (which is sadly what I'm getting at the moment!)

The girls have started school here and we cannot find anywhere nearby that we like - it all seems so crowded and rushed and we are craving the open space and countryside that we left behind in Annecy (I wonder if this exists in Marbella?)

I realise that we are not an entirely conventional family (despite looking completely normal!) but I wonder if you think we will find friends like us here or if we maybe should look elsewhere? Thank you for whatever help you can give!

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Aug 01, 2017
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looking for company at marbella
by: Anonymous

Hi everyone , me and my friend are going to visit Marbella at september , and looking forward to meet local people from spain ,also other tourists are welcome to join us.
we are 23 years old , like going outdoor, beach, also party people :) .
please contact me at : wael.sham12@gmail.com.
thanks.

Jul 19, 2017
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You are ALL welcome to join us!
by: Ali Meehan

Any of the ladies who have posted here are welcome to join our free community - https://costawomen.com We hold events West of Marbella (around Estepona/Manilva) and Marbella (centre and El Rosario) as well as other locations from Mijas on to East of Malaga. Many of these will start again after the summer, although a few are still taking place (including a coffee morning in Fuengirola on Friday morning)
Hope welcome you to the website and then the groups on Facebook too!
To find out more have a read of https://costawomen.com/help/contact and/or follow us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/CostaWomen/
Ali

Jul 19, 2017
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Friends wanted
by: Leila

My fiance and 2 kids aged 6 and 11 have moved to the Marbella area and we would love to make new friends as weve left them all behind!
If anyone is interested meeting up for a few drinks or a bite to eat please Email me leila.butler22@gmail.com

Jun 11, 2017
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Making New Friends in Marbella
by: kerry

hi my name is kerry, i have 2 girls; one aged 12 and the other 3. we are hoping to move to marbella, we are visiting for 3 weeks in july to visit some properties, but hopefully to make some new friends too ☺, so if anyone wants to meet up, that would be great, we are a fun loving family and want our time in marbella to be a holiday too not just visiting properties of course! ☺,

So if anyone wants to meet up you can email me at: laplandkerry@gmail.com

Apr 18, 2017
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Help please !
by: Hiba

Hellooooo my name is hiba and I have 3 girls my eldest is 10, 2nd is 8 and baby 20 month old :)

We stayed in estepona last summer and we fell In love , my husband works in the uk and in the Middle East and travels back and forth all the time , im intrested in meeting people that can tell me more about the life there and most importantly schools around or in estepona , English schools if possible , please get intouch in you think you can help , my email is hibarihan@hotmail.co.uk

Mar 04, 2017
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Making new friends
by: Lu

Hi all, my boyfriend and I live in fuengirola and are looking to make new friends. We are both English and 30 years old. We like being outdoors, going for dinner and drinks.
If you want to meet up, please drop us an email Lu_bush@hotmail.com

Feb 04, 2017
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Make friends
by: Anna

Hello.
I am coming to Marbella on the next week and would like to meet new people and furthermore to make friends.
I am speaking Russian and English.
Interested in sport, dances, traveling.
Love just walk around, to have some tea or coffee but also to have some random parties :)
Have been leaving with a lot of International people from different countries.
I am 22 years old, easy going and like to have fun!
Contact me through the email: annabels94@mail.ru
Hope to see you soon ;)


Dec 10, 2016
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Hi!
by: Kate

Hi,

I realise this post started a while back but I'm in a similar situation with an 8 month old, kind of still taking maternity leave at home with her but also running my own business from home.
I would love to meet more like minded women near my age (30 something!) for coffee, lunch, walks and just for some stimulating conversation that's not entirely baby based :)
I'm still on my Uk number at the moment but for anyone feeling similar feel free to whatsapp me +447969886665

Dec 08, 2016
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message ro the vergiterian
by: loveth

hi there my name is liveth i have been off and on in spain but since oct i am fixed in marbella, personally i have not met any on this site but, i belive we might make a great relationship,althoug am not vergiterian but i am a very concious person,my kids are 9,6 and 1 and you can reach me on whatsapp 00436764029864 or call on 631791656 thanks.

Dec 07, 2016
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Have you found Costa Women?
by: Ali Meehan

Hello M
Have you found the Costa Women community at costawomen.com? Its completely free to join and we arrange meet ups (both social and business) on the Costa del Sol (from East of Malaga to West of Marbella).
Hope to meet you at one of our events soon!
Ali

Nov 20, 2016
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Looking for New friends
by: M

Hi.
Im a Swedish girl who has been living here for a couple of years and unfortunatly my friends have moved back Home, as people tend to do here in Puerto banus and Marbella.

I would love to meet and get to know some new people, women around my own age, 20's and early 30's. Someone who just wants to hang out, go for coffee, shopping, for some food and drinks or a party night out. I need more of a social life then just my spanish boyfriend :)

I speak Swedish, English and Spanish.
Plz contact me on whatsapp :) 657 566 197

Aug 31, 2016
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New to Marbella
by: Amy

Hi,
I am 28 years old and have just moved to Marbella from the UK with my Peruvian husband. We are keen to meet new people and explore the area. We enjoy being outside, walking, seeing new places, meeting new people, having a few drinks, and playing board games. If you would be interested in meeting up you can whatsapp me on 657169162.

Amy :)

Aug 31, 2016
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Language exchange/make friends Marbella
by: Kathryn

Hi Nick,
I'll be starting up my language exchange group again in October, its a really friendly group of different ages and nationalities, its very informal and even if you're not practicing a language its a great way to meet people and make friends! You're more than welcome to join us. Its completely free to join and we usually meet on a Saturday late afternoon for a couple of drinks. My Facebook page is LanguageLinker and i'll be posting the info on there once its organised, or feel free to email me on info@languagelinker.com and i can add you to the email list to receive the details.
Hope to see you soon and welcome to Marbella! 😄







Aug 29, 2016
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New guy ..
by: Nick

Hi everyone ..
After a little searching I came across this page and seems I'm now in the same boat as some of you where or maybe still are..
I'm a new hairstylist on the coast working in reflections hair salon, although busy with work not really meet many new people and looking for more of a social.
32, single from London, well travelled, love the outdoors , food , good nights out and long lazy days in the beach, yoga and so much more, looking for adventure!!!
Nothing to loose attitude
Pls be my friend!!!! 🙈🙈🙈🙈 Ahhhh
Nick
+447834710058 what's app you got it , we all do :)

Jul 05, 2016
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Meet up
by: Antonio Lorente

Hi everyone,

We meet up every Tuesday in Matahambre Bar (Marbella) at 20:00 PM,

Marbella English Spanish Conversation Exchange Meet up,

If you want to join us, you'll be welcome!!

Jul 04, 2016
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Women connecting Women!
by: Ali Meehan

Hello Sara
Have you checked out costawomen.com yet? Its free to join and is very social! We have a group that meet in the Marbella area (as well as groups which meet West of Marbella, Mijas, Fuengirola, Malaga etc.)
Hope to meet you soon!
Ali

Jul 02, 2016
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Moved to Marbella - looking for social groups!
by: Sara

Hello,

I'm Sara, 26 year old from Wales!

I am living and working in Marbella and looking for make a social circle as I don't know anywhere here at the moment other than the friends I have made at work!

Would be great to meet up with some like minded people!

I'm into art and design, photography, music, BEACH and sun! Standard things :)

If you would like to socialise get intouch! sarawiltshire.sw@gmail.com or drop me a whatsap +447468248 !

Sara :)

Jun 18, 2016
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Making friends in Marbella
by: Stephan

hey guys,

I am new to Marbella and for the moment I do not know anybody beside my scuba instructor.

I'd love to meet people to go out for drinks, have laughs, discover the area, do fun stuff. I am up for almost anything.

I am 38 years old French and Swiss guy and I've live all my life as an expat in different countries (Martinique, Nigeria, Abudhabi, USA, Morocco).

Apr 16, 2016
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Language exchange/make friends
by: Kathryn

Hi All,
Welcome to Marbella!
I hold regular language exchange events and its a great way to meet people and make friends as well as practice Spanish.
The events are free and we welcome all languages, levels and ages!
The next event is today Saturday 16th April from 4pm-6pm at Pub Deco (calle pablo casals, marbella centre).
Feel free to contact me on kathryn@languagelinker.com
Or go to my Facebook page (LanguageLinker) which has more info.
Hope to welcome you to our group soon!
Many thanks,
Kathryn

Apr 15, 2016
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Looking to meet like-minded people in Marbella
by: Kylie

Hello there. I'm new in Marbella, just moved here for a few months.

I'm a 25-year-old lady, English speaker, trying to learn Spanish and I'm looking for like-minded persons who want to hang out.

I love working out,going for long walks, reading, shopping (and lots of window shopping), dancing and going out.

I'm talkative and quite social. I miss hanging out with my girlfriends so bad so I'm looking to hopefully make some more.

My email is misskyliekay@gmail.com. Hit me up if you are looking to make friends.

Mar 25, 2016
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Just moved here and looking to meet people
by: sam

Hello everyone.

Ive just moved here with the Mrs. Im english 27 and shes peruvian 26. She speaks good English and my Spanish is OK. It seems everyone I've met so far is always about business or making money out of me somehow.

we are looking to meet people our age, chilled out who enjoy having a laugh.

Feel free to email me on samtbarber88@gmail.com

Mar 17, 2016
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New in Marbella
by: Alba

Hello everyone,

I am from Spain, I am 25 years old and I find this kind of post really interesting, I like knowing what foreign people think about my country, how do they feel in it, even more if the problem is that most of us can not speak english very well, in my opinion it is very sad.

Next May I am going to start working in Marbella and I would really like to be surrounded in an international environment, I love knowing people from everywhere, so, it would be a pleasure for me to meet up with you once I get there. I would also like to know:

Did you eventually find any good opportunity to know people? How? And, by the way, if someone has any economic room available, I would be interested (no agencies, please). Any information will be useful for me, I leave here my e-mail: and8888@hotmail.com

Thank you :-)



Mar 15, 2016
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Organic
by: Anonymous

Hello from France,
Im planing to open an organic shop and i think we can meet sometimes and share some ideas,
If you would like send me you email, so I can contact you.

Feb 29, 2016
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So hey ... I am having a holiday in Marbella this week and everytime I go there I'm just with my family so I hope so to find new friends in there and to contact them so we can meet there when i'll go
by: Anonymous

If you want to contact me just reply to this comment so I can know your facebook,whatsapp or anything we can talk from

Jan 07, 2016
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San Pedro here we come!
by: Al Meehan

Hello Veronica
Most of the Costa Women events are free (and the website is free to join too) you just pay for your own drinks.
Excitingly we have a new group for social meet ups West of Marbella https://www.facebook.com/groups/CostaWomenMarbellaWestSocial/ and an event posted on the website taking place in Sabinillas this weekend.
We also have a coffee morning in El Rosario 22nd January.
Hope to meet you soon.
Ali

Jan 06, 2016
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Friends
by: Veronica

Hello, much same for me. I do not come out a lot. I have a chronic pain disorder, so already struggling with that, but I miss having someone to share a walks and coffee with.
I have a 17 year old daughter..
I realy miss social contact nevertheless some organisations are available which are to public for me.
I live in San Pedro and would really like to know new people....maybe organise a little 'meeting' so everybody is free to come and meet others.....

Dec 30, 2015
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Women Friends
by: Ali Meehan

Hello Loveth and Jen
Hope you are having a good end to 2015? I run a free Women's networking group, Costa Women (http://costawomen,com) We have monthly coffee mornings in Marbella, all along the Costa del Sol and soon to start events West of Marbella too.
You can check out the group on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/CostaWomen/ or the Facebook page just for Marbella https://www.facebook.com/groups/CostaWomenMarbella/ (where we have over 510 members) or register on the website where we have groups for the local areas too.
Hope to meet you at one of our events in 2016?
Ali x

Dec 30, 2015
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I know that feeling
by: Loveth

Its been approximatly a year since I have been here from Austria, I feel the same way. I get told it is because my kids are homeschooled and I hardly meet any one.
Add me on whatsapp if you wish.
00436764029864

Dec 29, 2015
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Similar Situation
by: Jen

Hello,
I'm in a similar situation in regards to meeting like minded people.
I've lived here for a little while now but have struggled to make many friends.

I'm a vegetarian, interested in holistic health. I regularly meditate and practice yoga and would love someone to chat to about these things.

I'll be back in Nueva Andalucia early next week and would love to meet for a chat.

email me if you are interested - jnybtlr@gmail.com

:)

Oct 24, 2015
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MEETUP in Marbella
by: Agostina

Hi! I live in Marbella and just created a group for a English-Spanish conversation exchange!!

Check out this page and join us!

http://www.meetup.com/es/Marbella-English-Spanish-Conversation-Exchange-Meetup/

Oct 09, 2015
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Looking for friends in Marbella
by: Anonymous

Hi! I just moved here from Miami. It looks like a fun place but it seems tough meeting people that actually live here. I love the beach and partying. It would be nice meeting like minded people :)
My email is pperrierp@hotmail.com


Sep 25, 2015
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New in marbella feeling lonely
by: Loveth

Hi all my name is loveth have 4 kids,we moved in to spain 11 months ago,I will like to make new friends,and also for my kids,anyone interested please add me on whatsapp 00436764029864.

Sep 07, 2015
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Meet-ups marbella & language exchanges
by: KathrynS

Hi everyone,
I run language exchange events and meet ups in Marbella. All ages, levels and ages are welcome. Its a great way to practice languages but also to meet new people!
Everyone in the group has been in the same position, so its a really friendly and welcoming group. Its completely free and we usually just meet up in a bar for a drink.
If you're interested in the details my facebook page is LanguageLinker and i put all the event information on there.
Feel free to email me on kathryn@languagelinker.com as well.
Saludos,
Kathryn

Sep 07, 2015
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lady from france
by: sharon

Hello to the lady in from France with the 3 children...i would be happy to meet you for a coffee/drink and a chat.

Sep 04, 2015
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New in Marbella
by: Elny-Elise

Hi everybody,

I just moved her with my boyfriend and little daughter. I’m 26 years old and I’m from Amsterdam. I live in Nueva Andaucia, little uphill above Puerto Banus. I just moved her 2 weeks ago and starting my own tea label here. And my boyfriend has his own business here as well.My little girl is going to the guarderia: Santa Esmeralda.
I just became member from the gym o2 plaza del Mar in Marbella.

I would love to meet some new people to share our stories about anything. Im super new here and just want to meet some new nice people.

If anybody is interested? Please contact me:
e.leuwol@gmail.com / +31622337731 / FB: Elny-Elise Leuwol

Hope to hear from you!

Elny

Sep 04, 2015
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New in Marbella
by: Elny-Elise

Hi everybody,

I just moved her with my boyfriend and little daughter. I’m 26 years old and I’m from Amsterdam. I live in Nueva Andaucia, little uphill above Puerto Banus. I just moved her 2 weeks ago and starting my own tea label here. And my boyfriend has his own business here as well.My little girl is going to the guarderia: Santa Esmeralda.
I just became member from the gym o2 plaza del Mar in Marbella.

I would love to meet some new people to share our stories about anything. Im super new here and just want to meet some new nice people.

If anybody is interested? Please contact me:
e.leuwol@gmail.com / +31622337731 / FB: Elny-Elise Leuwol

Hope to hear from you!

Elny

Sep 01, 2015
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Don't lose heart
by: Anonymous

Hi there. I completely understand, I have had similar struggles here too. The first year anywhere new is always hard, and more so if you feel like a round peg in a square hole, like I do. Why don't we meet up for a chat? Maybe I can point you in the direction of some great things in Marbella, it sounds like we have similar interests xx

Aug 31, 2015
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Parents of school friends
by: Anonymous

Once your girls start school you will make lots of friends with all the parents of their friends, especially at birthday parties

Aug 30, 2015
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moved from France.
by: Anonymous

Sorry, but from what you have written about you and your family, you have made the wrong move.

I struggled to find intelligent life and after 10 years moved back to the UK.

Why didn't you check it out before you left?
Try The Toastmasters club. the Achievers Marbella.

Intelligent life there.
Good luck.






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Aug 28, 2015
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Looking for friends
by: Michael Lucchese

Hey! My name is Michael & I just moved to Marbella! I am 23 years old, I love music, movies, the beach & alcohol. I don't know anyone here so it would be nice to meet up & hang out. My email is michael_lucchese@yahoo.com! Hit me up :)

Aug 08, 2015
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Looking for a friend to spend time with while im here :)
by: Miriam

Hello.

Im a 27 year old norwegian girl. Im 181,5 cm tall :S ye i know im a girafe :)
I have a house near to La Canada Shopping Mall :)
If anyones interessted in making a new friend, send me an email :)
And maybe we can meet up somewhere :)
I have some speech problems, and cant raise my voice a whole lot :)
so somewhere quiet would be nice :)

Miriam_ree@hotmail.com
is my email :)

Aug 05, 2015
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So glad!
by: Veronique

I was just saying to my husband this morning, i feel lonely sometimes, what can i do beside FB looking for some moms ro have a chat with, a drink, talking about life.....
My name is Veronique, i am belgian nationality, martied and a daughter of 17. I live in San Pedro. You can also find me on FB
So here you are! Nice initiative!

Apr 24, 2015
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New here
by: Okan

Hay,

Im new in spain marbella.
Im from germany and i would like to meet some people here!
Im 22 years old boy! When you are interested please write me on Facebook okan atli or instagram okancanatli.
Or write me on WhatsApp!!!
+49 172 7541823

See you!

Feb 12, 2015
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New to Marbella
by: Anonymous

Hello,

Am new to Marbella, I am 28 and British, I speak English and French. please email me if you want to be friends.

preskalove@live.co.uk

Marie

Jan 27, 2015
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Making friends in Marbella
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Hi Everyone,

I just moved from India a month go, settled in Marbella now. Looking forward to making a few friends here.

Cheers!

Jan 27, 2015
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Making friends in Marbella
by:

Hi Everyone,

I just moved from India a month go, settled in Marbella now. Looking forward to making a few friends here.

Cheers!

Nov 13, 2014
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meeting new peoplw
by: pili

Hi everybody. My name is Pilar, I'm from Marbella. I am 26 years old... I would like to meet people who enjoy playing padel, pin pon, walking im the montaing or just have a coffe.. I would like to improve my English, and also I could help you with your english as well.
My email is pilarmontero@outlook.com
Thank you so much!! I'm sure we will have fun together

Jan 07, 2014
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meeting
by: antonio

Great!!

Cath, we can fix a date to meet in a playground and the children can play together. My email address is alsanpedro@hotmail.com and my wife and I work in marbella and live in San Pedro. I hope more people can join and write in this forum

regards!!

Jan 05, 2014
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Making Friends
by: Cath

Hi Antonio and anyone new to Marbella!

We have been here a few months and I would love to meet up with other Mums (I have a 4 year old) / ex pats/ newbies etc....
for lunch/ play dates or coffee and a chat. There are some inbuilt challenges when you are new to a place and I would dearly love to meet others in the same position, or those who have been here awhile and know the lay of the land!

Hope to hear from you soon
Cath

Dec 26, 2013
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Making friends
by: Antonio

Hello everybody1

We are a spanish couple (38 years old) with a lovely 3-year kid and we would like to practise our english by meeting British people and in this way having fun and learning english at the same time!
Playgrounds, coffee-shops, gyms, pubs,.. every place is a good one to know people and have a really good time!
My son is also looking forward to practising his english!!!

Nov 17, 2013
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raw food pot luck
by: Anonymous

HI. See you are into raw food. Would love to get involved in a monthly raw food/vegetarian potluck. Anyone interested.
noelemcevoy@mac.com

May 16, 2013
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Making friends
by: Zora

I am really sorry to hear about your husband and understand how difficult it must be to start a new life and meet new people. The first place you should go to the Costa Women website to register, find information, connect with other women and attend some local events. This is a great group of women who are very kind and can lead you in the right direction with whatever interest you have.

I would be happy to meet up with you one day, so feel free to contact me at zoraspain@gmail.com.


May 12, 2013
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Making friends
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I am 34 and recently lost my husband to a quick and pancriatic cancer battle and have decided to come over to our apartment just outside of San Pedro heading to Estepona.

I am out here with my 6 year old son; my 15 year old is still in England for the time being.

Positioned on a golf course but do not play golf as that was my hubby's passion.

Not socialising as no friends here and finding it difficult to meet anyone. Same routine day in day out. I would like to stay out here long term but not sure if I will cope alone.

makingfriendsabroad@gmail.com

Jul 16, 2012
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ITV1
by: Susan

What are your contact details? Are you still looking for homeowners?

Jun 27, 2012
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ITV1 Seeks Home Owners
by: Anonymous

ITV1 SEEKS HOME OWNERS FOR NEW SERIES!

Hello! I am currently casting for the fifth series of ITV1's hugely popular daytime show 'May The Best House Win'. We are coming to Spain to film 10 episodes and we are looking for English-speaking contributors who would like to show off their home and compare it to others with the chance to win 1000 Euros along the way.

We are after a variety of houses to include - from self-built bungalows to big refurbishments and colour-themed flats to villas filled with artefacts. Anything goes really, but what we need are people who are passionate about their home and are interested in a bit of fun competition by inviting three others to judge their home and in turn going to their houses and giving their opinions and scores.

I was wondering if you know of anyone - a friend, neighbour or client perhaps - who might be interested in participating. If so, then please pass on my details.

If there are any questions then please just let me know

Thank you!!

Jan 19, 2012
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Thank you!
by: Sarah

I just wanted to reiterate my appreciation and thanks for all your lovely comments. Life has improved since we arrived, there is no doubt! The girls are happy at school and I like the sunshine and that it's so cheap to heat our house now! We have made friends with 2 families nearby which is lovely too. I am still not sure that this is the right place for us to be - I have such a strong calling back to France somehow... but no decisions are being made until the end of the school year as I think it fair to try a full year in one school first. In the meantime, my raw food business is going really well and it's enabled me to make friends all over Europe. I am truly grateful for the experience we have and am glad we came down - every new country teaches you a new perspective and helps understand the people who live here better, which I value very much. Thank you for your support during this journey! Sarah x

Jan 19, 2012
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How things travel!
by: Mona

Hi! I realize that is is over a year since you posted this, but it was just shared on the group Costa Woman by Zora and I have a feeling I was supposed to see it.

My name is Mona and I have lived here on the coast for 8 years now, it took me a while to settle, but with having three kids (6 soon to be 7 (boy), 8 (girl) and 10 (soon to be 11 (girl)) and doing activities with them has helped me. I now have a large network here, and I am very happy!

My family and I live on a finca just outside Fuengirola, we have lots of space and we are starting this year giving classes in kickboxing aerobics, yoga and curcuit training. We also do lots of seminars and workshops, and only last weekend we did a raw food-workshop! This was my first time trying raw food and I was blown away!!!

It would be great to meet you and have a chat. My husband and I want to make our finca into a place of health and wellbeing, and exercise and nutrition play a big part for us. My husband wants to make permaculture gardens and fruit forrests here, and we are just getting started now!

You can contact me if you want to meet at mona@familysiesta.no, or if you are coming to the Costa Women meeting on the 26th of January, maybe I'll see you there.

Mona :-)

Oct 28, 2011
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Hello Mindi
by: Ali Meehan

Sorry to hear that you haven't made many friends here. Please feel free to come and join us at Costa Women - we have over 400 women members in Spain; the majority in the Marbella and Fuengirola area. Lots of events and get togethers happen during the month and membership is free as are some of the events!
Here's the website address http://costawomen.ning.com/ We are also on facebook/costawomen and Twitter @costawomen too if you want to find us there as well.
Big hug and keep going - we are all routing for you now we know you are out there!
Ali

Oct 27, 2011
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making friends
by: Mindi

hi there,

i moved down to marbella 4 years ago from malaysia. so i really know what you are talking. its totally a diffrent culture for me. but till today i am still strugling to make friends here, maybe probably i dont speak fluent english, not sure. i am always home with my kids doing just the same routine everyday. getting depress at times. hope to make some new friends here.

Jan 20, 2011
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Heads up
by: Omaya

Hi Sarah,

reading this whole thread is heart warming and does show how much people around the costa do go towards others.
It does take some time in the begining, but as Zora said, you meet one person, the her friends and sooner than you would think you'll have a whole circle of friends.
I moved down here 2 years ago, from Geneva Switzerland, so I really know what you are talking about when it comes to nice scenery. But I discovered that you can find amazingly beautiful places down here only minutes from the crowd and concrete. I love rock climbing and thought I would never find anything equal here, not only did I do, but it made me discover amazingly beautiful landscapes. Whether you like biking, hiking or walking, they are groups that you can join and they will take you to discover unknown areas.
I also have three kids, and work from home. But since I have customers all around the coast, I got to meet new people very easily and some of them became real friends.
What really does work too is joining social networks, not only will it benefit your business, but you will get to meet tons of interesting people, Costa Women is one of them, and there are many other ones where I've met great people.
Hope this helps, you can contact me on the Costa women network if you want :-)
Courrage!
O.

Jan 20, 2011
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Marbella
by: Debbie

Hi Sarah

A big welcome to you.

We have lived here in Spain for 5 years and it also took us a while to feel at home. We met many peoole who enjoyed the drinking side of things with the constant ´holiday crowd´ but it really was not our thing.

I joined a few different groups to see if we could meet like minded individuals which was a slow process but did pay off. I recall one such event when we had been in place for 6 months, one of the ladies said she would only be interested in getting to know me once I had been here fore 2 years and earned by stripes!!!! Took the wind out of my sails and we have vowed never to take that approach with others.

As we do not have children we really did need to work at meeting other people. One of the most successful ways I found was registering at a language school. I got to meet and know some wonderful people and in turn meet some of their friends and colleagues.

Don´t give up. It truly is a wonderful place to live and there are many areas of natural beauty in less build up areas. Each day we learn and see new things. This just adds to the experience and whilst some things frustrate one day, the next day you will realise truly how amazing this part of Spain really is.

If you need information, help or even an ear feel free to drop me an email via our facebook page bennett property marbella.

Good luck
Debbie

Jan 20, 2011
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Finding friends
by: Sarah Spencer

Hi fellow Sarah,
Ali from Costa Women mentioned that you were new to the area and were having trouble settling and finding friends. She also mentioned that you lived near Torreguadiaro. Where are you exactly? My husband and I lived in Jimena de la Frontera for almost three years and we really liked it. If its open space that you're craving then there's plenty there - a little too much for us. We're now in a small urbanisation which feels very quiet and surrounded by countryside (Las Garzas in Bahia las Rocas). Its next to Torreguadiaro and close to the port in Sotogrande.

I would love to meet up and have a natter over a coffee or smoothie sometime! We don't have kids (2 dog and 2 cats instead!) but my sister and her three kids (age 2, 10 and 11) live in Gibraltar and they are fabulous. It would be perhaps nice for the kids to meet too. Her husband is a finance director in Gib and is away a lot as well.

I agree that when you move abroad your friends become your rocks and they are essential, especially the girls! We haven't really made many friends here either but we also work hard (I also run my own business from home) and if we're not working or walking our dogs, we're trying to just catch up with each other. Its true, it takes time, but there are some great people out there to get to know. I'll be going to the TweetMarbella gathering on 2nd Feb and you can see details of that here http://twtvite.com/tweetmarbella-feb2011/1 and via @nicchick on Twitter.

To get in touch with me you can do so on facebook via my business facebook page (only because my name's too common to be easily found!) www.facebook.com/geminicourses or via my website www.geminicourses.com
Hope to meet you soon and good luck with everything!
Sarah

Jan 20, 2011
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Costa Women
by: Ali Meehan

Hello Sarah
Welcome to Spain!
I think we all feel as you do currently when we first arrived here. Personally I was very unhappy for a long time and really missed my girl friends back in the UK. However, after 8 years (a lot of it spent in Dubai and Thailand) I am back and adore the place and its definitely home!
In fact since we have been back I have set up a group called Costa Women which is precisely for women who are expats in Spain to get together, find like minded people and garner support.
We have an event on this evening in Calahonda at The Loft. The details are on facebook http://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=130566170339970 We also have a facebook fan page http://www.facebook.com/pages/Costa-Women/160884577271342 Do come and join us this evening if you can, or join the group - you really don't have to be alone!
Big hug
Ali x (alicontax@gmail.com)

Jan 19, 2011
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Thank you
by: Sarah (who wrote the original letter!)

Hello Inma and Z, thank you so much for your kind words of encouragement. Inma, you are so right in trying not to compare one place with another and merely seeing the good in the current. Funnily enough I did this yesterday before I even read your comment and, on the way home from school, my head was drawn to the beauty of the mountains, and not the concrete buildings near the coast!

I don't really know how to make contact through here but if you to to my site www.bluefishenergetics.com there is form to email me - it would be lovely to get in touch!

Thank you!

Jan 18, 2011
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Marbella is different
by: Inma

I came to Marbella from Madrid 5 years ago, and eventhough it was really hard at the begining I just met a friend who introduced me to her group of friends and was as easy as that. Eventhough that doesn't mean that I get on with all her friends and not all of us share the same hobbies, ways of life or look at things the same way.

However, one of the things I needed to do was to stop comparing between Madrid and Marbella, and I think that if you are able to stop comparing between the place you used to live and where you are living now, it will help you. You need to open your eyes and try to find the "bright" side of Marbella: Nice beach promenades, to be in the centre of Andalucia ( you can go to Granada where you can ski and admire the nature or to Seville to taste a bit of the "andalusian" culture...etc..) , the multicultural aspect of its inhabitants..etc...

I am not vegetarian,I don't smoke and don't swear , don't have children ( eventhough I like them , so I can't talk much about them), and have a degree in Tourism. I am Spanish,used to speak french better that English but not any more.. as my boyfriend is English and we talk in English all the time. If you need someone to talk to, maybe i can be one of the many friends I am sure you are going to find in Marbella.



Jan 18, 2011
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Settling in Marbella part I
by: Marbella Family

I have moved many times in my lifetime and I totally understand how you feel. The good news is that, YES!, you will find friends who have the same interest as you. Being that your husband is away most of the time, friends are absolutely crucial. In my experience, I feel I need a good six months to a year to feel settled in a place and start making friends. Unfortunately, good friends takes a while. Relationships need time to develop and they develop with experiences together. So, be patient, you will find people with the same interest soon...but you must be active. Why not join a gym, or attend a health seminar, or get your kids involved with an after-school activity with the local Spanish community?

Jan 18, 2011
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Settling in Marbella part II
by: Marbella Family

It may feel like you are meeting the same type of person over and over again, and that may partly be due to the fact that are not expanding your horizons. Meeting other parents through school is the first and easiest way to make friends. However, if you´re not really bonding with any of the parents at school you´ll have to search elsewhere.

My first recommendation to you is to learn Spanish. We are a multicultural family. My husband is French and I am American. We´ve lived in Russia and are now based in Spain. So we´ve got quite a lot of languages under our belt. Learning a language is the first thing I do when I move to a new country. It opens many doors and the pool of friends that you can make is so much wider. The good thing is that Spanish people are extremely open and friendly, so you won´t have any problem approaching them.

One of the reasons why we decided to move to Marbella is the fact that it is so multicultural, so we knew we would fit right in. As your children are attending a British school it may seem that Marbella is a "Little UK". True, there are a high number of British people living in Marbella and the Costa del Sol, however, when you look around you see plenty of pockets of other groups (in addition to all the Spaniards! :) ). Humans are creatures of habit and love to socialize in their own language. The Russians stick with Russians, the French with the French. Once you meet one French person, a whole other group of people open up to you. The same goes for interests. As you are into a healthy lifestyle and alternative health products you will likely run into someone who has the same interest and they will also have a group of friends right behind them who are just like them.

Marbella is a mix of cultures and lifestyles. You have the jet-set Marbella, the family friendly Marbella, the eco-friendly Marbella and plenty of others. I love Marbella for having this mixture. It´s cosmopolitan yet if you look outside your back door you will find a whole world of nature and beautiful vistas. It´s really the best of both worlds.

Don´t fret. The most important thing is to stay positive, patient, get involved (or have your kids get involved) with other social circles through clubs, sports, gyms, health seminars, whatever your interests may be, and keep your eyes peeled. Marbella has it all, you just need to sometimes look a little harder for what you want.

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